The cause of our anxiety can be obvious, but it’s not always clear why we feel anxious. Why does it sometimes feel like we’re anxious all the time, and what can we do to stop it?
It can sometimes feel like we’re constantly anxious.
Anxiety hits us as soon as we wake up in the morning.
Anxiety is there when we’re struggling to go to sleep at night.
No rest or respite.
In the medical field, it’s called Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD).
Rather than focus on the diagnosis and symptoms of GAD, let’s focus on the cause and solution – the two things that will help you break the cycle of consistent anxiety so you can go back to normal levels of anxiety.
The cause of constant anxiety (GAD)
If you’re feeling consistently anxious, it’s down to two things.
There is an issue with something (or someone) in your life you haven’t dealt with.
There is something (or someone) making you feel out of control.
‘Something’ usually relates to work or money – these are the two big causes of our stress and anxiety.
‘Someone’ refers to a relationship, like a partner, friend or family member – another big cause of our stress and anxiety.
All these examples highlight external problems, but the truth is, our anxiety comes from ourselves.
Getting fired at work, having piles of debt we’re struggling to repay, and having a partner cheat on us, will all cause us stress and anxiety – there is no doubt about that.
How much anxiety?is the question.
Life has a habit of throwing all sorts of stuff at us, so it’s normal for us to expect to experience anxiety on a daily basis.
It’s when anxiety becomes constant that we need to start paying attention to it.
When anxiety feels like it’s sticking to us – like we can’t shake it off.
When it’s stuck to us and anxiety feels constant, it has a strong grip, making us believe and think we don’t have a choice – but we do.
We always have a choice.
It’s up to us how long we allow our feelings of anxiety to last.
If anxiety comes from us, and we have a choice, why does anxiety feel constant?
There is a fear (worry) that is hounding you – a fear that is likely been buried or swept under the carpet (on purpose) – and it’s that fear that is causing the anxiety.
This fear will be based on something that has happened in the past or something we think might happen in the future.
The solution to constant anxiety (GAD)
We create our stories.
These stories we tell ourselves are based on the past (what has already happened) and the future (what might happen).
We live our lives based on this story.
If this story is filled with fear (the what ifs and mights), we’ll feel anxious – all the time.
If you want to shake the constant feeling of anxiety, it’s time to change the story.
The solution to constant anxiety (GAD) is to live more in the present moment.
There is little point in worrying about the past. It’s gone. There is nothing we can do about it.
There’s also no point in worrying about the future. It hasn’t happened yet. We can’t control it or predict it accurately.
The only thing that is real is this moment, right now.
There’s a lot of anxiety-relief and comfort to be had from knowing this.
You can draw immense power and mental strength from living more in the moment.
Living in the present moment
The next time you feel your anxiety and stress levels rise, or you find yourself worrying about the past or future, STOP YOURSELF IMMEDIATELY.
Become consciously aware that you’re allowing your thoughts to get out of control.
Find a quiet space (if possible), and close your eyes (if you feel comfortable).
Take the opportunity to breathe calmly, and just appreciate the moment.
Appreciate that this moment is the only thing that is real.
With time and practice, the more you do this, the easier it will get.
The more you allow yourself to go into the present moment, the more you’ll break the pattern of feeling constantly anxious.
The past and the future, including what has already happened and what might happen, will have a lesser hold on.
As you continue breaking the pattern of feeling constantly anxious, your anxiety levels will continue to reduce, and you’ll get back into healthier habits.
The constant feeling of being anxious will go, and your mental strength will flourish.