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The Truth About Anxiety

Discovering the truth about anxiety helped me completely change the way I deal with it. So, what is the truth about anxiety, and how can it help you?

It was an eye-opening experience when I first looked into anxiety – to say the least!

For many years I thought I was the only person on the planet going through it.

That changed rapidly when I googled ‘Anxiety’ for the first time and read about other people’s anxiety-related symptoms and experiences.

This was some time ago now. Today, life is pretty different.

Back then, anxiety consumed me. I battled with it from the moment I woke up to when I struggled to get to sleep at night.

Every day was a living nightmare.

It’s hard to describe just how bad it was, but if you’re reading this, I’m sure you have a good idea.

Answers were the one big thing I craved when I was suffering from crippling anxiety.

No matter how hard I searched, I couldn’t find them.

Don’t get me wrong – there was always plenty of information and advice available. But most of it was rubbish or a scam to get my money.

After decades of being frustrated and disillusioned, I decided to find the answers myself.

On this journey, there was no greater discovery than what I’m about to share with you.

It saved me years of suffering and pain. It was literally a lifesaver.

I hope it does the same for you.


Truth #1: There is NO cure for anxiety (and there never will be)

No wonder I looked for a ‘cure’ for my anxiety for as long as I did.

It’s because it doesn’t exist!

Stop wasting your precious time and effort.

Stop pulling your hair out and hitting bricks walls.

No cure for anxiety

There is no cure for anxiety.

But don’t worry – anxiety not having a cure isn’t a bad thing.

This key piece of knowledge isn’t designed to reinforce the belief that nothing can be done about high anxiety. In fact, it’s the complete opposite.

It’s great news. 

It just means we have to look at anxiety differently.

It means you can stop chasing a cure you’ll never find and, instead, focus on managing your anxiety better.

Or, as I put it, get more BALANCE in your life.

> Anxiety Rebalance: Where Do You Come on The Rebalance Scale?

So, that’s truth number one to help you on your new journey – there is no cure for anxiety and your search stops here.


Truth #2: It’s IMPOSSIBLE to eliminate anxiety

If you’re looking for a solution or method that will get rid of your anxiety, stop the heartache and frustration right now.

Like a cure, it won’t happen.

It’s impossible to get rid of anxiety.

Anxiety forms part of who we are. It’s here to stay.

At times, it will feel like your enemy – but it’s not. When we learn to work with anxiety, we transform the way we feel about it.

Plus, anxiety isn’t something you want to get rid of.

Look at it like this…

When you get angry or upset, do you want to get rid of the emotions of anger and sadness completely?

Of course not.

We accept these emotions as part of our lives.

They might come with unwanted feelings and mental pain, but that’s part of the balance of living.

If we accept that getting angry and upset is part of life, isn’t it time we started accepting that it’s also normal to get anxious?

It’s easy to forget that anxiety is normal.

When we’re dealing with high anxiety, we’re dealing with higher than normal anxiety – that’s it.

Anxiety only becomes abnormal and something we need to tackle when it stays with us – when it feels like we can’t shake it off.

That’s when we know we have to manage it better – not get rid of it.


Overcoming anxiety is a life’s journey

I’ve mentioned ‘the journey’ a few times.

Overcoming anxiety is a life’s journey – one that doesn’t end.

Life has a habit of throwing all kinds of stuff at us – good and bad.

The trick is making this journey a more pleasurable one.

There are lots of ways we can do it. Things like living in the moment a bit more, and being able to stop our overthinking and worry – these things will do the trick.

Anxiety might feel like it’s winning right now, but if you’re willing to make some small steps, it won’t stay like that.

Let’s not allow anxiety to keep us trapped and stuck in the mud – let’s keep moving forward.

Here’s a couple of suggestions…

Read my bestselling book, Anxiety Rebalance – it has all the answers you need.

Watch my free video on the Truth About Anxiety.

Anxiety Rebalance Course

Join my free community and stay updated.

Or continue having a read of the blog.

Also feel free to shut this webpage down in disgust at my blatant disregard for the complex nature that is anxiety!

Whatever you choose, I wish you all the best on your new journey.

Carl

The truth behind your anxious thoughts
Anxiety, Depression, Diet, Fear, Happiness, Health Anxiety, Panic Attacks, Social Anxiety, Stress, Success & Wellbeing

The Truth Behind Your Anxious Thoughts (They’re funny)

Anxiety has us thinking and believing all sorts. But it doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom. When we look into our anxious thoughts, the real meaning behind them is actually quite amusing.

Let’s have some fun.

When we get down to it, we are all absolute stinking liars!

By the time our thoughts pass through our mouths, they’ve been revised, rejigged and reformatted – all to make sure we say the right things and stay in people’s good books.

Understandable. If we said most of the thoughts our mind creates, we’d either be locked up or beaten up.

As well as staying in people’s good books, the other reason we lie and change how we communicate is for the benefit of ourselves.

This is especially the case with our anxiety-related thoughts.

It’s easier to mask the truth and deal with it by fabricating it.


60,000 thoughts a day

Yesterday, you had about 60,000 thoughts. Today, you’re going to have about the same. (That one you just had added to today’s tally.)

60,000 thoughts a day

These thoughts represent how we really feel.

We mask these thoughts as lies – lies we tell ourselves and others – because we want to hide how we’re really feeling.

When you begin to unmask the true meaning behind your most popular thoughts, including your anxious ones, you’ll discover just what a stinking liar you are – what stinking liars we all are!

But don’t worry; it’s not all serious. There is a funny side to our hidden truths.

Like I said at the start – let’s have some fun with this.

I’ve picked out a few of our most popular thoughts and the true meaning behind them to get you started.

When you begin to question the true meaning of your daily thoughts, you might benefit from a regular chuckle yourself.


“I’m hungry.” (When you’re not.)

I’m bored.

Is there some of that cake left over?

Ummmmm. This is filling the emotional hole within me.

(5 mins later.)

Did I leave some more of that cake in the cupboard?

“I’m glad you’re feeling better.”

Thank God I no longer have to ask you how you’re feeling, fetch you soup, get you medicine, and watch as you sweat all over the couch.

These three days of your ‘man flu’ have felt like three months.

Now get up off your lazy arse and get back to work!

I bet if I had a bout of illness you wouldn’t look after me as well.

Selfish.

‘How do I look?’

Do I look better than you?

Will I be admired, and destroy people with jealousy?

Tell me anything other than I look great, and I’ll disown you.

Where do your loyalties lie?

“I feel less anxious today.”

I wonder why.

I hope it lasts.

How long do I have before I start feeling shitty again?

“I’m way too old for all that.”

Who here is going to say I don’t look old?

Who is going to ask how old I am so I can astonish them with the answer?

“Oh, I’m so pleased for you.”

Why doesn’t anything good ever happen to me?

You got lucky.

I bet I could have that if I wanted.

“I start my diet tomorrow.”

I know I don’t need to diet, but I’d still like to hear it anyway.

“Of course. I’ll get it done by the end of the day, no problem.”

How the hell am I supposed to do all this crap?

Why don’t you stick a broom up my arse and I’ll clean the floor as well.

“I did my best.”

I did what I thought I could get away with.

Now I’m tired.

Leave me alone.

“Carl is the funniest and bestest writer I have ever come across.”

*No further thought.


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Daily routine for anxiety
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Ideal Daily Routine for Anxiety (Achieving BALANCE)

I’ve mapped out a daily routine which I found ideal for dealing with anxiety – and easy to follow – over the first three-month rebalancing period.

I understand that, due to work/life commitments, you will have to make some modifications (such as when you start work), but try to stick to the core activity as much as possible – the more closely you can follow it, the better.

By following these few simple instructions you will instantly begin to feel more energetic, vibrant, motivated, positive and enthusiastic – key ingredients needed for BALANCE.

Over time, the routine will become easier to follow, eventually becoming second nature. Keep it up, and you’ll be rewarded with a lifetime of change.

Gaps in the routine should be filled by work or a focused activity or hobby.

6.30 am: Get out of bed

6.45 am: Exercise

7.45 am: Shower

8 am: Healthy breakfast (no caffeine)

10.30 am: Snack

12.30 pm: Healthy lunch

3 pm: Snack

6 pm: Healthy dinner

6.30 pm: Plan for the next day

7 pm: Wind down and relax until bedtime

10–11 pm: Go to bed.


Get out of bed as soon as you wake up

Start your day as you mean to go on. As soon as your alarm goes off or you wake up naturally, get out of bed. Don’t lie in bed procrastinating – it allows anxious thoughts to creep in. Concentrate on the plan you made yesterday and go for it.

Exercise

I find that exercising in the morning before I eat breakfast gives me the best results. It also sets me up for the day by keeping me energised.

Shower

Shower every day. It’s not only important for hygienic reasons, but it will refresh you and help wake you up, ready for your day.

Snack regularly

Keep your energy levels up throughout the day by snacking regularly on fruit (a banana is ideal) and nuts. If it helps you to stay organised, set your alarm or set an alert on your mobile phone when a snack is due.

Plan for the next day

You already know how important it is to have focus, and planning for the next day is the most effective method of getting it right. If the next day is a work day, plan what you need to do. If you’re not at work, plan your activities in advance. Book something (if possible) and commit to it.

Find time to relax

In a busy schedule that includes family and work, it can be very easy to forget about your own needs, only to regret it later when you’re overstressed and exhausted. Even if it’s only half an hour, take time to relax every day. Put your feet up, make yourself a hot drink (no caffeine!), and shut yourself off from the world. Read a book, or do something that allows you to wind down. If it helps, close your eyes – and if you doze off, so be it!

Go to bed at a reasonable time

Aim to get eight hours of sleep every night. Some people need more, some less. Establish what you need by how you feel when you wake up, and aim to get that amount of sleep daily.


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Why do I have OCD?
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Why do I have OCD?

Routines and rituals are commonplace with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). But why does OCD have this power over us, and what can we do about it?

What is it for you?

Cleaning rituals? Scanning your body for abnormalities (health anxiety)? Checking doors and locks? Counting routines?

Just a few of the common routines and rituals OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) will have us do.

To the balanced mind, these things might seem crazy.

But to someone who suffers from OCD (like I used to), these routines and rituals are very real.

So, the question is:

Why does OCD have this power over us?

It comes down to one thing: control.


OCD and control

An OCD-related routine or ritual is a way for us to try and take back control.

When we have OCD, we feel out of control in an area of our life, and OCD gives us a way to try and take back control.

OCD Washing hands

OCD is a dysfunctional way of trying to deal with our anxiety, stress and problems. It’s not pleasant, and it’s not something we want to be stuck with for the rest of our lives.

This is the exact reason why we need to manage our intrusive thoughts in a different, more functional and constructive way.

Knowing that we use OCD to try to take back control doesn’t make OCD acceptable.

I mention it here because it’s a nice thing to know.

Like all anxiety-related conditions, there is a complexity that surrounds them, giving us the belief that overcoming them is impossible.

It’s not.

The same goes for OCD.

When we’re armed with answers, we can overcome anything – OCD included.

You now know what it takes to overcome OCD: A new way of taking control of the areas of our lives that make us feel out of control.

The first step to making this happen is to drop the false belief of negative consequences.


Negative consequences OCD has us believing

The real power behind OCD is consequence.

If we don’t do a routine or ritual, OCD will have us believe a negative consequence is in store for us.

That consequence could be any number of things.

Those intrusive thoughts will have you believing all sorts – and it’s usually the worse case scenario.

When we put our rational thinking cap on, THIS IS COMPLETE RUBBISH.

How would not cleaning our hands five times in a row mean we’re going to die?

I’m not watering down the power of OCD here. I know first-hand how insidious OCD is.

If you’ve suffered from OCD for some time, it’s a very hard habit to break.

But it can be broken.

The way to start breaking the habit is identifying the areas of your life you feel are out of your control.


Getting the control back

The most common areas of our lives that cause us stress and anxiety can be split into three.

They all intertwine with each other, but these are the three categories most likely to be affecting your anxiety and stress levels – and therefore your OCD.

> Money

> Relationships (family & friends)

> Work

Most of us aren’t great at dealing with our stress and anxiety, so we tend to try and sweep it under the carpet.

Sweeping issues under the carpet

That’s when issues arise.

When we don’t face our anxiety (fear), it continues to grow. This growth usually comes with more anxiety-related issues, like OCD.

It starts with a bit of stress, and that quickly grows into something bigger, until we find ourselves dealing with intrusive thoughts that make us do these OCD-related routines and rituals.

What area of your life do you feel is out of control?

When you can bring your anxiety (fear) to the surface, you can start dealing with it.

Allowing your anxiety to get bottled inside, or trying to sweep your fear under the carpet, will only mean more issues (including OCD) that continue to get bigger.

Some fears (anxieties) are a little trickier to bring to the surface so you might need professional help, like counselling, to help you deal with them.

When you’re prepared to face your issues, you’ll begin to take back control.

This control will help you deal with your OCD, and with time and practice, you’ll find those intrusive thoughts, routines and rituals, will naturally fall away.


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Anxiety Rebalance diet tips
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9 Diet Tips for Anxiety (Achieving BALANCE)

While on my three-month rebalancing routine, I stuck to these tips. I found that they helped me so much that I now follow them daily.

1. Eat breakfast

Anxiety will deplete already low levels of energy, so you want to make sure you start your day off right. Breakfast helps fuel you from the get-go, making it the most important meal of the day. Choose something high in energy like granola or porridge, and include a banana.

2. Cut out caffeine

If you think caffeine helps to wake you up, you’re wrong. All caffeine does is bring you back to the state you should already be in. Yes, it’s a stimulant, but you don’t need it. All caffeine is good for is fuelling anxious thoughts. Be aware that tea, like coffee, contains high levels of caffeine. Ideally, seek alternatives like decaffeinated drinks and herbal teas.

If you can’t imagine a life without caffeine (and I’m including this section because there are plenty of people who think this), the theory of BALANCE means you should be able to do what you like, including drinking caffeine. My advice is to do your best to cut out caffeine in the rebalancing period (around three months), because it’s highly likely, in your anxious state of mind, that caffeine will have a negative effect on you. Like anything else, if you choose not to change your habit and continue to drink caffeine, please don’t waste your time wondering why your anxiety isn’t improving. Change often means sacrifice. All sacrifices are harder to make at the start, but get easier with time.

3. Drink lots of water

Drink lots and lots of water throughout the day. It flushes the toxins out of your body and gives you energy – which compensates for the fact you might visit the toilet a little more frequently!

4. Snack at regular intervals

Keep your energy levels consistent throughout the day by snacking at regular intervals. Snack on nuts, vegetables, fruit or any food that is high in energy.

5. Eat bananas

Potassium in bananas helps to balance the sugar levels in your blood, and the carbohydrates in bananas help keep energy levels consistent, so try to eat two or three spread across the day. I appreciate that eating lots of bananas isn’t easy, but make an effort to eat at least one (in the morning). You can also vary it a little by eating other foods that are high in potassium, such as deep-sea fish, yogurt and avocados.

6. Juice

I struggle to fit the recommended five portions of fruit and vegetables a day into my diet, so I came up with a solution – juicing. I have a set vegetable juice I drink every day that includes:

a handful of kale
a handful of spinach
a stick of celery
five medium carrots
an apple.

It takes me fifteen minutes to make, and seconds to drink. My big tip is to get a decent juicer. Cheaper juicing machines tend to make a mess and don’t do a great job. Try not to juice too much fruit, because it’s not good for you (I’m told it has something to do with the high sugar content). If you find an all-veg juice not sweet enough, add an apple. Experiment and see what you prefer!

7. Cut out junk food

Eating too much unhealthy junk food will slow you down, reduce your energy levels and make you feel sluggish – the perfect breeding ground for anxiety. It’s also worth noting that spicy food can increase anxiety. (Like caffeine, it can produce symptoms associated with panic.) I’ve never fully trusted fast food for a number of reasons, including animal welfare and what actually goes in the food, so it’s easy for me to avoid it. I can appreciate its convenience, but it can be just as quick and easy to prepare healthy, nutritious meals at home.

If you do decide to treat the kids at the weekend, or avoiding fast-food outlets is impossible for you, most chains have picked up on the fact that people want a healthy alternative to their triple decker, double- bacon-and-blue-cheese special burger. For example, you can buy a salad bowl at Subway. These can be just as fulfilling as one of their foot-longs. They fill you up, they’re a lot healthier, and they don’t make you feel as bloated – all perfect for reducing anxiety, increasing your energy and achieving BALANCE.

8. Chew your food and eat more slowly

Make your food easier to digest by chewing it more and eating more slowly. By chewing more you also trick your brain into thinking you’re eating more than you actually are – which is great for losing a few pounds.

9. Get a good night’s sleep

Your body needs sleep for effective digestion. Poor sleeping patterns (or no sleep) will disrupt the process and aid the fear cycle. The average amount of sleep an adult needs is eight hours, although we’re all different, so you should gauge what you need based on how you feel when you wake up. Sleeping too much, or too little, will not only affect your digestion, but also cause other anxiety-related symptoms. If you choose to prioritise any of these tips, it should be this one – without it, none of the other tips are useful.


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Why do I feel anxious all the time?
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Why Do I Feel Anxious All the Time?

The cause of our anxiety can be obvious, but it’s not always clear why we feel anxious. Why does it sometimes feel like we’re anxious all the time, and what can we do to stop it?

It can sometimes feel like we’re constantly anxious.

Anxiety hits us as soon as we wake up in the morning.

Anxiety is there when we’re struggling to go to sleep at night.

No rest or respite.

In the medical field, it’s called Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD).

Rather than focus on the diagnosis and symptoms of GAD, let’s focus on the cause and solution – the two things that will help you break the cycle of consistent anxiety so you can go back to normal levels of anxiety.


The cause of constant anxiety (GAD)

If you’re feeling consistently anxious, it’s down to two things.

  1. There is an issue with something (or someone) in your life you haven’t dealt with.
  2. There is something (or someone) making you feel out of control.

‘Something’ usually relates to work or money – these are the two big causes of our stress and anxiety.

‘Someone’ refers to a relationship, like a partner, friend or family member – another big cause of our stress and anxiety.

All these examples highlight external problems, but the truth is, our anxiety comes from ourselves.

Money troubles

Getting fired at work, having piles of debt we’re struggling to repay, and having a partner cheat on us, will all cause us stress and anxiety – there is no doubt about that.

How much anxiety? is the question.

Life has a habit of throwing all sorts of stuff at us, so it’s normal for us to expect to experience anxiety on a daily basis.

It’s when anxiety becomes constant that we need to start paying attention to it.

When anxiety feels like it’s sticking to us – like we can’t shake it off.

When it’s stuck to us and anxiety feels constant, it has a strong grip, making us believe and think we don’t have a choice – but we do.

We always have a choice.

It’s up to us how long we allow our feelings of anxiety to last.

If anxiety comes from us, and we have a choice, why does anxiety feel constant?

There is a fear (worry) that is hounding you – a fear that is likely been buried or swept under the carpet (on purpose) – and it’s that fear that is causing the anxiety.

This fear will be based on something that has happened in the past or something we think might happen in the future.


The solution to constant anxiety (GAD)

We create our stories.

These stories we tell ourselves are based on the past (what has already happened) and the future (what might happen).

We live our lives based on this story.

If this story is filled with fear (the what ifs and mights), we’ll feel anxious – all the time.

If you want to shake the constant feeling of anxiety, it’s time to change the story.

The solution to constant anxiety (GAD) is to live more in the present moment.

Live in the present moment

There is little point in worrying about the past. It’s gone. There is nothing we can do about it.

There’s also no point in worrying about the future. It hasn’t happened yet. We can’t control it or predict it accurately.

The only thing that is real is this moment, right now.

There’s a lot of anxiety-relief and comfort to be had from knowing this.

You can draw immense power and mental strength from living more in the moment.


Living in the present moment

The next time you feel your anxiety and stress levels rise, or you find yourself worrying about the past or future, STOP YOURSELF IMMEDIATELY.

Become consciously aware that you’re allowing your thoughts to get out of control.

Find a quiet space (if possible), and close your eyes (if you feel comfortable).

Take the opportunity to breathe calmly, and just appreciate the moment.

Appreciate that this moment is the only thing that is real.

With time and practice, the more you do this, the easier it will get.

The more you allow yourself to go into the present moment, the more you’ll break the pattern of feeling constantly anxious.

The past and the future, including what has already happened and what might happen, will have a lesser hold on.

As you continue breaking the pattern of feeling constantly anxious, your anxiety levels will continue to reduce, and you’ll get back into healthier habits.

The constant feeling of being anxious will go, and your mental strength will flourish.

You’ll get back to being you.


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Why Am I Addicted to Searching My Anxiety Symptoms Online? (With Dr Google)

An anxiety-related symptom comes up that makes us panic. Panicking makes us jump online to ask Dr Google for reassurance. Why do we do it, even when we know it’s doing us no good, and what can we do about it?

Health anxiety is a real pain in the a**.

And that’s exactly what we’re talking about here – health anxiety.

It’s health anxiety (also know as hypochondria) that makes us hit the internet searching our anxiety-related symptoms.

The biggest issue with this is Dr Google.

He’s not the nicest or best-qualified doctor to ask.

It’s always the worst case scenario with Dr Google.

Dr Google

A headache is a brain tumour, and indigestion is a heart attack.

YOU HAVE FIVE MINUTES TO LIVE AND SHOULD SEEK IMMEDIATE MEDICAL ATTENTION!

This isn’t the best thing to see when you’re already anxious and panicking.

It’s little wonder so many of us call for an ambulance when we’re dealing with health anxiety, only to be told there is nothing wrong with us.


The need for reassurance

I was an addict.

If I got a headache, or a bit of chest pain, or a mark on my body, I’d hit the internet asking Dr Google if I was OK.

9 times out of 10, he’d tell me I wasn’t OK. His advice was to seek immediate medical attention.

Talk about raising your anxiety and panic levels through the roof!

It was the constant need for reassurance that was the culprit.

When you’re dealing with health anxiety (hypochondria), you want constant reassurance.

It’s down to one of our primary fears (death).

In Anxiety Rebalance, I call it the DP rule.

It’s this primary fear that causes us to panic and search symptoms online.

When we deal with this fear, it stops the addiction of searching anxiety-related symptoms online with Dr Google.

The way we can deal with it is by realigning our focus.


Realign your focus

When an anxiety-related symptom comes up, it becomes our absolute focus.

Almost as though nothing else matters.

Intense focus

We get trapped in a cycle and keep doing the same thing over and over again.

The pattern looks a little like this:

ANXIETY-RELATED SYMPTOM > NEED FOR REASSURANCE > ASK DR GOOGLE > MORE PANIC & ANXIETY

…and the cycle continues.

That is until we break it. And we break it by realigning our focus.

We get more of whatever it is we focus on.

If you’re focusing on your anxiety-related symptoms, there are no prizes for guessing what you’ll get more of.

That cycle will keep going until we break the pattern using focus.

Breaking this pattern takes just one small step.

The next time an anxiety-related symptom comes up and you feel the urge to hit the internet asking Dr Google for advice and reassurance, ask yourself this question:

Is this anxiety tricking me?

Looking back, with the advantage of hindsight, I can say that most (if not all) of my anxiety-related symptoms were made up in my head.

Because I focused on my health and my symptoms, new ones would pop-up from nowhere.

The symptoms would cause me to panic and I’d follow the same pattern over and over again.

ANXIETY-RELATED SYMPTOM > NEED FOR REASSURANCE > ASK DR GOOGLE > MORE PANIC & ANXIETY

Nothing changed.

That was until the day I sat at my laptop and thought to myself, hang on! Is this anxiety tricking me again?

Rather than jump straight onto the internet, I paused.

The anxiety (the strong need for reassurance) was doing everything in its power to get me to ask Dr Google for advice and reassurance, but I held back.

It was this slight pause that made all the difference.

It gave me the little breathing space I needed to check reality and use rational thinking.


Overcoming health anxiety takes time & practice

Don’t expect overnight results when it comes to overcoming health anxiety.

It’s a habit you built up over time.

It needs time and practice to unravel the habit – just like how it formed.

Aim to keep building on that breathing space I just mentioned.

As you continue questioning your health anxiety with rational thought, that breathing space will get longer and longer.

With time and practice, you’ll eventually get to a point when an anxiety-symptom comes up and you know instantly that it’s anxiety tricking you.

You’ll then reach the point when Dr Google serves you no more purpose.

*Beats fist up to the air*

Yes!


Should I speak to my doctor about health anxiety?

It can be hard distinguishing between real symptoms and anxiety-related symptoms. But when we use our rational thinking, most of us know the difference.

We might not know immediately, but anxiety-related symptoms tend to subside.

If you’re in any doubt about any symptoms, you should always speak to your doctor.

You might need confirmation and reassurance to move forward.

Just be cautious not to keep visiting the doctor based on anxiety-related symptoms.

It can lead to the same frustrating cycle that asking Dr Google takes you on.

If you haven’t spoken to your doctor about anxiety or health anxiety, that’s always one of the first steps to overcoming anxiety you can take.

The most important thing is you get your thoughts out in the open and talk – so you can start dealing with the cause of anxiety, get past health anxiety, and stop searching your symptoms online.

Aim to close the door (or laptop) on Dr Google, stay focused on what it is you want, and keep moving forward.


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Am I suffering from high anxiety?
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Am I Suffering From High Anxiety or Normal Anxiety?

We all deal with anxiety. But when do we know we’re dealing with higher than normal anxiety – and when do we need to act?

Let’s not confuse high anxiety with every day NORMAL anxiety – it can make us believe we’re suffering a lot more than we are.

If you need help distinguishing between the two, take a look at the Rebalance Scale.

Rather than list a ton of anxiety-related symptoms you’ll find all over the internet provided by Dr Google (the type of lists that only serve to increase our anxiety even more), let’s pinpoint how to identify high anxiety from normal anxiety using this one simple question.

Am I able to do everyday things, like go to the shop and see friends, without having to think too much about it?

This question helps you recognise if you’re overthinking – a sure sign of high anxiety.


Overthinking

If the answer to the above question is a clear NO, it’s likely your anxiety levels are above normal.

Anxiety is affecting you more than it should be, making it high anxiety.

With normal anxiety, you can do everyday things like see friends and go to the shop without the need to overthink them. They are just part of what you do.

When high anxiety has a grip on us, our mind races off in a thousand different directions.

Small things bother us.

Corner of rug up causing anxiety

We overthink every scenario until going to the shop becomes a life-threatening disaster (before we’ve even stepped out of our front door).

It’s the old ‘what ifs…’

What if this…?

What if that…?

This is overthinking at its best (or worse).

Overthinking can get us to a point when it feels abnormal not to worry.

When you don’t worry, you actually go looking for things to worry about!

It’s like worrying becomes a bad habit.

It’s this habit that leads to living in the world of what if…


The world of what if…

When we’re dealing with higher than normal anxiety, we live in what I call the world of what if…

It’s not a nice place to live.

Everything is over the top and exaggerated.

Things are rarely positive, and there isn’t anything to look forward to.

The worse case scenario is the one we believe to be true.

Like when going to see friends, for example – it’s not the pleasurable experience most people get from it – it’s something we dread doing.

Going out for a drink has suddenly turned into absolute panic.

Holding head in hands

Overthinking causes negative thoughts.

By the time Saturday comes around, you’ve worried so much you end up cancelling.

Overthinking (living in the world of what if…) has created endless stories about all the horrible things that might happen, so you come to the conclusion it’s best not to bother.

These are the stories high anxiety fools us into believing.

We have about 60,000 thoughts a day.

Think about how many of these thoughts actually come true.

The worse case scenario is usually far from reality.

In other words, high anxiety needs a reality check!

And when you check reality by using rational thinking, you’ll start lowering your anxiety levels.


When do I need to act on my anxiety?

If you find yourself overthinking everyday activities, or you’re worrying excessively, or you’re living in the world of what if… for longer than your common sense tells you should, it’s time to act.

If it’s allowed to continue, high anxiety will keep you trapped in a pattern of behaviour that is no good for you. You’ll overthink so much, your brain will think it’s normal to act that way.

Like a bad habit, you’ll continue practising living a life dominated by high anxiety – until you break the pattern.

It’s time to take action, break the pattern, and do something different.

Like the main man, Albert Einstein says:

You have to do something different if you want a different result.

To set yourself on a new journey – one that isn’t plagued by overthinking, worry and high anxiety, you have to start acting in the way you want your life to be.

To achieve it, all it takes is one small step.

That step will lead to bigger and better things.

> Take the first step to overcome anxiety.


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